Mollie Simpkins

Memories of Mom - 25 years later
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Wow - where to begin. Isn't that always the question when you write something like this. What is this, you may be asking. Well, it's quite simple. October 23, 2016, marked the 25 anniversary of mom's passing from breast cancer.  It seems quite surreal and impossible that it's been 25 years, nearly half my life.  It seems like just yesterday I was flying home to say goodbye for the last time. Often when I see women my age with their mothers, I wonder what our relationship would have been like and where I would be. Because it appears that I, in many ways, have become my mother, think we would have an absolute blast sharing new adventures. I am quite sure, however, that my life would have taken a very different path. Wednesday, October 23, 1991 breast cancer - changed everything.  My world collapsed.

When mom was diagnosed, in 1983, I was already gone from home, trying to make my way in the world.  At the time I got the call, I was in Culpepper, Virginia, at a horse show. The conversation was not happening - no no no no no..no!  What followed in the next eight years is such a blur. There was remission, then it was back with a vengeance.  What I didn't know at the time that this cancer, metastatic cancer, you don't come back from - especially in the late 80s/early 90s.

In those eight years, mom tried varied treatments, even branching out into homeopathic treatments and things that folks don't blink their eyes at today. If she thought that there was a chance to extend her life, for her family and her children, she would do it - and she did.  It was my birthday in 1991 that I knew the end was near.  I didn't get a call on that birthday and I knew that things were worse than I had imagined.  Less than a month later, I got the call. The next morning, I flew home to say goodbye.  It was and still now, is the saddest day of my life.

As I write this, with tears streaming down my face, I listen to what could be her favorite album 'An Evening With John Denver' which frankly could be tied with Neil Diamond's 'Hot August Night'! Sidebar: Both of these albums are staples in the libraries of myself and both of my brothers. They are part of the soundtrack of our youth. That, is how our mother and her spirit of adventure and zest for life has inspired not just us, but those who were lucky enough to live within the orbit of her very being. She, was a force and feel honored when some say I remind them of her.

When mom was going through her battle, there was nothing like Casting for Recovery. There were no programs in which women who were going through similar experiences could share their stories, hopes, and fears. But, now there are such programs and I feel so lucky to have been part of CfR and see how it can and does change lives.

Since 1991, CfR has helped thousands of women, in any stage of breast cancer, cope with diagnosis, treatment, and recovery by holding no-cost retreats.  CfR married two things I was passionate about - fundraising for breast cancer programs and fly fishing.  I can't help but think how mom would have LOVED to have had the opportunity to participate in such a program. 

CfR retreats offer opportunities for women to find inspiration, discover renewed energy for life and experience healing connections with other women and nature. I know this to be true. I was part of the all-volunteer staff for the Mid-Atlantic Program for several years. I also had the great fortune to lead the program for a few years.  Sadly, after moving to Montana, much of my time was focused on my new job and life. That hasn't changed in the past few years and was reminded just this last week I need to reconnect with not just CfR, but raising awareness and funds for such a special program.

Aunt Marilyn, Grams, Mom

In my office, yes my work office, I found a typed letter dated January 11, 1985 from my grandma to my mom. Why it was there, I don't know for sure, but know it was there for a reason. To remind me to get back in the game of giving back to others and help those organizations who do so much for so many - like Casting for Recovery.  In the note, grams speaks of what a Wonderful Treasure and Gift mom is and was to others. However, there was one line that brought me to tears, there in my office. "You have been given the Gift of giving of yourself and of your worldly goods without thinking of yourself." This sentence speaks EXACTLY to who our mother was and the lessons she taught us. Not by the words she spoke, but by the actions she took. The kind, thoughtful, and generous people that my brothers have become is a direct correlation to this sentence.  I am here to pick up where I left off a few years ago and hope you can help me reach a very lofty goal.

As CfR celebrates 20 years, I wish to honor my mom on the anniversary of the 25th year of her passing.  My goal is to raise $20,000. Doesn't have to be in a week or even a month, but by next spring. To fund an entire retreat for CfR is $20,000. Don't forget that it costs zero dollars for a woman to attend. This includes the cost for 14 women to attend, insurance, all kinds of fee processing, training, and so on. I cannot think of a better way to honor all that my mom was and the spirit she encompassed than help 14 women heal from both the physical, mental, and emotional scars they have. I have met so many wondeful people through the program. Many who will be lifelong friends. I have also lost wonderful women who lost their battles, but were helped along the way with a CfR program.

It's been a very long time since I have reached out and asked for help with reaching such a lofty goal, but here I am asking and hoping you can help. By donating, by spreading the word via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, smoke signals - whatever it takes, I will be most grateful and so very proud to have the opportunity to honor my mom and help 14 very deserving women to heal.

With Love and Respect,

Mollie, Daughter of Gail

 

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Wow - where to begin. Isn't that always the question when you write something like this. What is this, you may be asking. Well, it's quite simple. October 23, 2016, marked the 25 anniversary of mom's passing from breast cancer.  It seems quite surreal and impossible that it's been 25 years, nearly half my life.  It seems like just yesterday I was flying home to say goodbye for the last time. Often when I see women my age with their mothers, I wonder what our relationship would have been like and where I would be. Because it appears that I, in many ways, have become my mother, think we would have an absolute blast sharing new adventures. I am quite sure, however, that my life would have taken a very different path. Wednesday, October 23, 1991 breast cancer - changed everything.  My world collapsed.

When mom was diagnosed, in 1983, I was already gone from home, trying to make my way in the world.  At the time I got the call, I was in Culpepper, Virginia, at a horse show. The conversation was not happening - no no no no no..no!  What followed in the next eight years is such a blur. There was remission, then it was back with a vengeance.  What I didn't know at the time that this cancer, metastatic cancer, you don't come back from - especially in the late 80s/early 90s.

In those eight years, mom tried varied treatments, even branching out into homeopathic treatments and things that folks don't blink their eyes at today. If she thought that there was a chance to extend her life, for her family and her children, she would do it - and she did.  It was my birthday in 1991 that I knew the end was near.  I didn't get a call on that birthday and I knew that things were worse than I had imagined.  Less than a month later, I got the call. The next morning, I flew home to say goodbye.  It was and still now, is the saddest day of my life.

As I write this, with tears streaming down my face, I listen to what could be her favorite album 'An Evening With John Denver' which frankly could be tied with Neil Diamond's 'Hot August Night'! Sidebar: Both of these albums are staples in the libraries of myself and both of my brothers. They are part of the soundtrack of our youth. That, is how our mother and her spirit of adventure and zest for life has inspired not just us, but those who were lucky enough to live within the orbit of her very being. She, was a force and feel honored when some say I remind them of her.

When mom was going through her battle, there was nothing like Casting for Recovery. There were no programs in which women who were going through similar experiences could share their stories, hopes, and fears. But, now there are such programs and I feel so lucky to have been part of CfR and see how it can and does change lives.

Since 1991, CfR has helped thousands of women, in any stage of breast cancer, cope with diagnosis, treatment, and recovery by holding no-cost retreats.  CfR married two things I was passionate about - fundraising for breast cancer programs and fly fishing.  I can't help but think how mom would have LOVED to have had the opportunity to participate in such a program. 

CfR retreats offer opportunities for women to find inspiration, discover renewed energy for life and experience healing connections with other women and nature. I know this to be true. I was part of the all-volunteer staff for the Mid-Atlantic Program for several years. I also had the great fortune to lead the program for a few years.  Sadly, after moving to Montana, much of my time was focused on my new job and life. That hasn't changed in the past few years and was reminded just this last week I need to reconnect with not just CfR, but raising awareness and funds for such a special program.

Aunt Marilyn, Grams, Mom

In my office, yes my work office, I found a typed letter dated January 11, 1985 from my grandma to my mom. Why it was there, I don't know for sure, but know it was there for a reason. To remind me to get back in the game of giving back to others and help those organizations who do so much for so many - like Casting for Recovery.  In the note, grams speaks of what a Wonderful Treasure and Gift mom is and was to others. However, there was one line that brought me to tears, there in my office. "You have been given the Gift of giving of yourself and of your worldly goods without thinking of yourself." This sentence speaks EXACTLY to who our mother was and the lessons she taught us. Not by the words she spoke, but by the actions she took. The kind, thoughtful, and generous people that my brothers have become is a direct correlation to this sentence.  I am here to pick up where I left off a few years ago and hope you can help me reach a very lofty goal.

As CfR celebrates 20 years, I wish to honor my mom on the anniversary of the 25th year of her passing.  My goal is to raise $20,000. Doesn't have to be in a week or even a month, but by next spring. To fund an entire retreat for CfR is $20,000. Don't forget that it costs zero dollars for a woman to attend. This includes the cost for 14 women to attend, insurance, all kinds of fee processing, training, and so on. I cannot think of a better way to honor all that my mom was and the spirit she encompassed than help 14 women heal from both the physical, mental, and emotional scars they have. I have met so many wondeful people through the program. Many who will be lifelong friends. I have also lost wonderful women who lost their battles, but were helped along the way with a CfR program.

It's been a very long time since I have reached out and asked for help with reaching such a lofty goal, but here I am asking and hoping you can help. By donating, by spreading the word via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, smoke signals - whatever it takes, I will be most grateful and so very proud to have the opportunity to honor my mom and help 14 very deserving women to heal.

With Love and Respect,

Mollie, Daughter of Gail

 

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